There is a mix of disbelief, belief, and the lack of energy to celebrate. I think we turned to each other that morning to acknowledge the significance while brushing our teeth, one of us rocking Landon's bassinet with our foot while the other was helping keeping Emerson from destroying the contents of a cabinet. We are so old!
And our lives have certainly changed from those beginning years where it was just us. A season where we had infinite time to devote to one another, even though at the time it didn't seem like we did.
Josh recently gave some marriage advice and, man, that guy always slams me when he actually speaks up to other people. He said that it's really important to do "it" right in the beginning because that's the easiest and simplest it will be for a couple. "It" being the foundation of your relationship - mostly how you argue, how you make financial decisions, how you respond when hurt, how much you give or take from one another. Once life builds up, the way you treated one another in the beginning years becomes second nature and changing how that goes is not impossible, but takes work. Yes.
One thing I appreciate about Josh is how he argues. He's so great at it. He's not overcome by emotion (like some people cough cough). He is also selfless, quick to see his part in it, first to apologize if so, insistent that we work it out immediately, gentle in his rebuke. He doesn't shy away from the hard stuff but also doesn't make something more than it is.
"Be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ, also has forgiven you." Ephesians 4:32
In this season of young children, I am so thankful that one of the foundations Josh made sure to set right was how we argued.
There is more, much more, but it is very early and my son is done nursing so I'll leave it at that.
5 years, incredible.
No comments:
Post a Comment